I’m a teenager, need help.

I’m new and I want some real advice from parents. I come from a Pakistani Muslim family. I am 19 years old and all of our family moved here to the US last year.I love my parents, and so do they, but there are some very big problems.My mom has somewhat unrealistic expectations from me. I understand her view since my parents’ marriage won’t be considered near to a good one.I have tried my best to be the best son. Never smoked, never drank. I have done nothing ‘bad’ according to the Pakistani Muslim standards except for one. I liked a girl, and started talking to her. That is where everything came tumbling down. My mom had told me a lot of times in the past that if I ever liked someone, I should tell her and she’d be cool. This didn’t happen. I just started chatting with her and my mom threatened her, me, and my other male friends and somewhat tried everything she could to destroy my social circle. I know she did it in an outburst of emotion. It has been one year and my relationship with my mom has not been good. Both of us want to talk, but we just cannot. There are a lot of fundamental differences.Moreover, I do not believe in Islam, so our views about life are fundamentally different. Where she would want an arrange marriage for me, I would never want that. I dont even want to think about marriage for I am only 19 at this point.Can someone please advise me how I can improve my relationship with parents?Forgot to mention that my mom had all of my social media and phone passwords and she read all the chats (they didnt have anything ‘dishonorable’ though). I want to improve my relationship without getting my liberties snatched.I know what is bad for me and at this point I just cannot see my mom pressuring me to do something against my will. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2AzRHRC