I'm in a unique situation where I'm taking care of my little brother for most of the day. My parents are divorced and my mom travels every other day for work. My brother is extremely spoiled(so was I). My parents grew up very poor and they want us to have everything. I think that's bad practice since I look at my brother and see how I was back then, disrespectful, rude, addicted to computers. My mom does tell my brother to stop playing so much every time she travels, but he doesn't care. My mom says "he'll grow out of it", but I want him to have the foundation I never had, so I started being extremely strict. 1 hour of play and 1 hour of rest. He broke this rule about a dozen times so I upped the "rest" period to 2 hours. He broke it again a few times so now it's up to 3 with an hour timer to let me know his time is up. My brother still broke this rule many times, so I took away his technology for a week. This had no effect on his behavior whatsoever. What's worse is that my mom encourages this by letting him play for SEVEN hours straight because I wasn't there to stop it. It's extremely frustrating, and lately I found out that he wakes up at 5 am to play his ipad until 7:30, where he had to go to school. I found out about this and got very mad, told him he doesn't get to do this and increased his "rest" time to 4 hours. This still didn't stop it and I have no clue how to do this without whipping him. I've had positive reinforcements all my life, and it turned me into a lazy guy for most of my life. I don't want him to turn out like me, but my mom doesn't care at all. I tried to discuss this with my mom but she changes the subject every time I bring it up. It irritates me to the core and I feel angry that both my mom and my brother don't respect me. How do I discipline in this situation without hitting him? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2lWB9Bp
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