I'm at my wits end. As the title states my sons father is letting him watch youtube completely unsupervised. The father told him which shows hes allowed to watch, and "trusted" him to skip any "naughty" shows. Well, our son is 4 so of course he isnt going to do that. This has been an ongoing issue. When our son was only 1 he did this. I argued with him not to then, too. He agreed not to let him watch it on the phone (because our son was able to navigate youtube on the phone by himself and choose whatever show he wanted.) That was as far as I was able to get. But now our son is able to navigate youtube on the television with the remote. I went to pick him up for the week, and I hear youtube playing. As soon as I walk up the stairs i hear the show turn off. My son is (as fucking usual) alone in the living room. He was watching YouTube. And he looked guilty. He said "a naughty show came on. But I can watch what I want and what i think is okay. So yeah." I lost it. I argued with his father that this needs to stop. He comes home to me saying weird things that he picked up from watching youtube. One thing in particular that really shocked me that he picked up was that he "wants a girlfriend named Lexi that will sit on him." I almost threw up. His dad said its not a big deal. He learns so many awful things from YouTube and I'm scared of what will happen if this continues. At my home he isn't even allowed to watch youtube with supervision. No youtube at all at our house. Only dvds and Netflix, and we only watch new shows together to make sure its appropriate for him. So after I argued it hard enough he turned to our son and said "alright, momma says no YouTube poor guy. Mommy's rules. Mean overprotective momma is taking it away from you." And our son started sobbing. I was fuming. On the way home I made sure to tell my son that he wasnt in trouble, and it wasnt being taken away because he was bad, but just because he isnt ready for something as big as that. Please keep in mind that the father isnt just letting him watch youtube kids, but just youtube in general. Not to mention almost every time I go to pick up our son, his father is either sleeping, or just in the other room (often times just in his boxers. Which is disgusting. He knows im coming to pick him up, and 90% of the time he is indecent and it makes me VERY uncomfortable.) Often times his house is a wreck and theres cat puke all over the carpets, and my son isnt dressed and ready at all. Hes usually in the same outfit I dropped him off in 3 or 4 days prior.Ive already taken him to court once, but i went easy on him. Hes SUPPOSED to have him half the time. We have split custody. But he usually only takes him Friday Saturday and Sunday. And he usually just dumps him off with family members. He pays no child support and claimed him for foodstamps behind my back. I dont know what to do anymore. Ive been seperated from his father since our son was only 6 months old. To give you a better picture of what a selfish manbaby his father is, one of the last straws was when I gave birth. After hours of labor and pushing I was exhausted. I didnt know the nurses could watch the baby for you. I begged his father to hold him and feed him so i could rest. He said "I would, but hospitals make me real tired. Ill hold him after i nap."I'm glad I left him, but i wish I didnt have to share my beautiful boy with him. He isnt fit to be a caretaker of a child. He can barely take care of himself. What the hell should I do? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/33ELBQh
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