Husband teasing, over punishing IMO

So to make this fairly short I’ll just tell of the situation that occurred tonight although similar scenarios tend to happen regularly.Daughter asked for lettuce wrapped tacos vs tortilla wrapped tonight but was disappointed when I made them for her because they were a bit bigger than last time maybe 2 bite size instead of making 15 bite sized and fell apart when she tried to pick them up- as tacos tend to do... I asked her not to be so picky that they are they same just a bit bigger and to put forth more effort in picking them up (she was picking them up with two fingers and dropping them, you know like purposely trying to let them fall apart and making a big gross mess of her food). Her attitude has been really gnarly lately, and I’ve been trying hard to stick to punishments instead of letting small things go . She turned away from her plate and wasn’t eating. We all finished I asked her multiple times if she wanted my help or a different utensil or anything to help her eat. I gave her a final warning that this was it and no other food would be served for the night, no snacks before bed, and made sure that her final decision was no dinner for tonight. She agreed and went to her room.After we clean up, husband goes and says watch this: yells “hey where are the car keys I’m going grab froyo for everyone who finished all their dinner” and pretends to head out the garage. She doesn’t fall for it and knows his tactic. I just don’t understand why this is necessary, like is he trying to make her cry, trying to make her more upset? Like for what? So then we have to hear her sobbing because she thinks she’s missing out?... maybe this is necessary so she remembers next time, idk please tell me...Then he grabs Icecream from the freezer 5 mins later and proceeds to head to her room eating it at her door describing how delicious it is...Childish in my opinion... she already had a punishment that was stuck to, do we really need to make her feel left out and tease and poke at her til the point that she cries?I feel like this is bad parenting, it’s cruel and unnecessary but maybe this is where I’ve gone wrong and where her rotten attitude comes from because I don’t push things to make a memory of it?Hubby thinks I’m not hard enough and that’s why this behavior happens that I have to make them feel a certain way so they remember it.Any parenting books would be really great too, so it’s not just me saying hey that’s unnecessary teasing and such, it’s better to do it “this” way instead. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/3bkbSpH