How to kick ass as a working dad?

The long version - I'm the dad of an 11 month old boy. Live in New York City, work in the arch/civil engineering/urban planning field. Used to work longer hours in the private sector but took a gov't job just before he came for the better work hours and QOL balance. I get into the office at 9:30, leave at 5:30 most days, and am home by 6:45 to spend time with buddy boy before we put him down to bed at 7:45. He was a surprise baby - his mom and I are in our late 30s/early 40s. I had been an endurance athlete before he arrived (runner and cyclist) but have put those interests away for the time being due to the demands of parenthood. I was also a bike commuter and gave it up after a couple of near-misses from cars after he arrived.So, ever since buddy boy arrived, it has been a whole lot more work to get on my A game in the office. I work in an office with a lot of smart, young millennial types who are willing and able to stay late and who aren't operating in a baby-induced mental fog half the time. It is tough to keep up during those periods when our collective workload goes up and everyone has to pitch in. Right now he's been teething a lot, so sleep has not been great and I feel like I'm down a solid 20 IQ points.So, long story short, for those of you who have demanding careers, living in high-powered cities with infants and young children, is this just how it is? I've ready these studies about dads who become these kickass productivity machines following the birth of their kids, who get raises and become leaders in the office, and I have not found that to be the case. I want to excel in my career, not just get by - and I want to do it while being able to see my boy before he's down for the night. Thoughts?TL;DR version - Have an 11 month old, work in a competitive field, feel like I've lost my edge since he arrived. Do you get the edge back eventually, or is this the new normal? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2IDxoIs