What is wrong with my son and what can I do to help him? When he was a kid he was shy, did not have much friends but didn't seem to have a problem with it as he read books instead and did stuff by his own.The first time I noticed he had some trouble was when he was 15, he told me he was depressed and suicidal. We went to a psychologist and he went many times during that year and talked. It went well I thought, he stopped after some time and things were fine.Then when he was 16-17, I noticed something was wrong, he always sat in his room, didn't do anything. I mean he never met any people at any time but he always had projects going like buildning some stuff or reading about something etc. So I talked to him, he was feelings suicidal he said and didn't see any point with life. I tried to talk to him to go to a psychologist again but he refused, instead he started to medicate himself by abusing illegal drugs. He stopped with that just before he moved out of the house when he was 19.He started to study at university at 19, 20 miles away. Now he came home to live with me during the summer because he is lonely he said, he have been here for 3 weeks now and I have talked to him about the year and boy he is not doing well. First of, he hasn't made a single friend during this whole year in his new city. He also says that he doesn't fit in, everybody is partying and doing stuff he doesn't get his head around. Which doesn't suprise me that he feels this way. He's studies goes great, he showed me that he studies more than his engineering program, he also studies courses in economy and politics. He's also doing great economicly, he has somehow made over 100 000$ by investing the money I gave him when he left, about 10 000$. So that's great for him, but. During this time he has been home he hasn't done anything but sit a the TV and computer, which indicates to me he doesn't feel very well emotionally. He have also been drinking a lot of alcohol. He has behaved very odd generally. For example, today I went to the store, he said he wanted to come with me. I said okey that's fine. So we took the car, and when we got to the store he said "I want to sleep in the car while you shop, that's why I came with you" I was like "eh... okey" and left. When I came back he was sleeping and I was just thinking "which 20 year old son litteraly goes to the store with his mom, so that he can sleep in the car while she's shopping?". He woke up when I started the car, said "Drive around town a little, I want to see the city from inside the car so I don't have to talk to anyone if I happend to know them from before". So we went for a drive, he didn't say a word he just stared out the window while I just drove around the city.Another example, he went for a walk. Was gone for hours. Came home, I asked where he have been out of curiosity. He said "I wanted to walk in the woods, then I felt like sleeping on the ground because it looked nice so yea, that's what I've done" and he says these weird things without making any kind of intimation that he knows it's weird.He also talks about sex with me, like straight from nowhere. We sat and ate last week. And from nowhere he says "I still haven't been able to have sex with anyone. Can you tell me how to initate sexual contact? I don't understand that first part of it, like how you make them want to also do it with me". I didn't know what to say. I felt angry and wanted to say that he can't talk about that kind of stuff during dinner, but at the same time I can't get mad about it because it's obvious he doesn't understand anything about social rules.I don't know what to do. He understand logic, math, physics, money and that kind of stuff more than most people. But socially, he's like a 5 year old kid. He has done a test once to see if he had a diagnose or not, he didn't complete it but he did complete the IQ test and he had 140+ IQ. So maybe this can be some kind of hint of what type of problem he has. I have tried in this post to describe him, but it's so hard, I don't understand him myself.And about that specific sexual issue he has, that he doesn't get any sex. Should I suggest that he looks for a prostitute, or how do you feel about this? I mean his soon to be 21, still hasn't been with a single girl. I can understand this is something that bothers him, or maybe it doesn't at all what do I know. What do you think? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2927sZw
No comments:
Post a Comment